Welcome to part 1 what is a sure-to-be reoccurring theme called “What Really Grinds My Gears”. Special thanks to Fox Broadcasting Company and the TV show “Family Guy” for the image.
This part involves people and not doing what they claim. Recently, I had to make plans based off the decision and plans of another person. Doesn’t sound like much, in fact, it probably sounds quite normal. Most people’s plans are directly affected by others. Shouldn’t be of a surprise at all. Here’s the difference: this person claimed that he needed time to make a decision on his/her plans. One month went by. Each week that go closer, I increased the frequency of my inquiries. One week before the date of interest, he/she told me that they all the information in front of them, and that a decision would be made that day. Well, that didn’t happen. It got down to the literal “day before”. Same question, same result …. absolute nothing. I told him/her that I made the plans without his/her assistance or input. They had the nerve to say that I couldn’t make that decision without their plans. I told them that you can’t dick around for a month with no progress. Absolute nothing had been done. Of course, indications were given during the entire time period. Indications of progress, when clearly there was no progress. Why the deception? Why the purposeful misleading? They only reasons I can possibly think of are these three:
- They forgot (each and every time I reminded them)
- They have no idea what to actually do therefore a decision cannot be made
- The decision is actually not theirs to make.
One is impossible. Two is highly likely. Three would be surprising, but not out of the realm of impossible. It just really grinds my gears that people don’t do what they say. I almost feel like a minority in that if I say I’ll do something, I do it. If there is possibility that I won’t be able to/want to … I say that. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Making a decision that is unpopular is better than none at all with a false pretense of arriving at the decision.
Makes me want to reverse the roles of this scenario. Purposefully delay, delay, delay until the exact last minute and then do nothing. And then have the balls to be pissed after the fact that they would be pissed at my indecision. I don’t really care what the actual reason for delay is. In fact, per my luck, I’m sure it’s completely reasonable and something that I am not thinking of. But you know what, I don’t care. Recently, It’s proven more and more than people do what is best for themselves and don’t care about the plans or designs of others as long as it does not affect them. Clearly, in this situation, my plans did not affect him/her in the slightest. So, you can’t be pissed. And if you are, I don’t give a rat’s butt.
Moral of the story: Sh!t or get off the pot. Don’t mislead, tell the truth no matter how difficult or shameful it may be.
Secondary Moral: Do what every else does and think about yourself only. You are the only one caring about you.
More to come: Maybe some movie and/or book reviews.